Good post Cat.
And the word good is kind of an insult honestly.
Outstanding.

Like I posted as a little joke earlier, yeah that could change. The man could start seeing things in prospective.

But no matter how many lights you put into a dark room, there will always be shadows. What of the sexual addictions this man has dealt with for years?

I just don't know what to tell him. He could improve his life a little bit, but what about that little piece of insanity that comes back to bite us all in the rear? The days where you feel like the walls are closing in?

Should the man try to be in a homosexual relationship or what?
It's just this HUGE stumbling block for him.

If he's going to serve God, he doesn't want to do it half-way.
He wants to do it right, 100%.

So many people say so many things, but WHAT do I tell him without lying?
WHAT to do about his life, and his love?

What would Jesus do?
I don't know!
I really don't.

You've kind of nailed down one part.
But this addiction is like a freaking f5 tornado, if it hits his house, he's dead, you know? And I think that, if somehow if he can get past this, perhaps we can start to see some improvement.