If you find any answers, let the rest of us know.

I guess that was a somewhat flippant answer to a tough question. But I think most of us have the problem of lustful fantasies about boys. Personally, I have asked foegiveness for that more times than I care to remember. Every time I think I may have it somewhat under control, the lustful thoughts come back in waves.

The only way I have ever found to reconcile myself to this situation without becoming overwhelmed with guilt, is to recognize that I'm doing the best that I can with what is inside me. I didn't ask for this burden, and I've asked numerous times for it to be lifted from me. But I guess I shouldn't expect special treatment from God. Everyone has to deal with lust in one form or another. So I just do the best I can and count on God's forgiveness for my weaknesses.

There are some things I can physically do to try to lessen the lust, such as making the conscience effort to stay away from sexy pics of boys. But I have a very fertile imagination, so even when I'm successful in the area of pics, I still fantasize. Staying more focused on God helps me. But again, it doesn't completely solve the problem.

As BLers, I think we tend to beat ourselves up way too much over the issue of lust. Our "normal" Christain brothers have just as much a problem with lust as we do. But since their lust is more socially acceptable, they usually don't have as much a problem with the guilt. Keep in mind that Jesus died so we could all be free of guilt. He never said we would be totally free from sin, just that we would be forgiven. Guilt does no one any good. It's harmful and can inhibit our walk with God. So while I still acknowledge the sin as sin, I TRY not to feel too guilty about it. I just do the best I can, trust the Holy Spirit to help me, and ask forgiveness when I fail.

Keep in mind that fantasies don't harm anyone. I believe sinful thoughts do keep us from being as close to God as we might otherwise be. But we deserve a litlle credit for not letting our yearnings affect others. So don't be so hard on yourself.

Dakota