However I'm very conscious that in my history there was such a relationship that in my mind became sexualised on my part (though nothing inappropriate happened), and that it was because of that I moved from being 'gay' to being a 'BL'. I was 14 and the boy was 13, but because he was physiologically younger, it was a YF type relationship, not a peer type relationship. And because I was emotionally isolated, I allowed it to become sexualised in my fantasies. I'm not suggesting it will happen to you, Youth, but I'm wondering if others can relate to such a transition point?

PS - it's pall-bearer, not paul-bearer. If us old gits can't teach you spelling, then we really are useless...