There's nothing wrong with you being the one to initiate contact. I've got a friend I've known for a very long time, and I am almost always the one to initiate contact. It's just the way things evolved. It's not that he doesn't want to get together. He has a large family and many other things that take up his time and attention. If I waited for him to call, I would rarely see him. With all of the other stuff he has going on, it would be a long time before he realized we had lost touch and call. The same might be true of your YF. But don't over do it. I can't tell you how much is over doing it. You are the only one in a position to know if he is beginning to feel pressured by how often you call or ask him to do stuff with you.

From your first post, I got the impression you were trying to do anything to hang on to him. I'm just saying there is only so much you can do. Then it's up to him. You said you can't live without him. That kind of thinking can lead you to do more than what's reasonable to keep him close without realizing it. It's also not very good for your mental health and emotional well being. So you need to be prepared for things to change as he gets older. Relationships between kids and their parents change as they get older. There's no reason to think it won't change between you and your YF.

Dakota