Personally, I wish you wouldn't use plural language when you are only speaking of yourself. You are making the incorrect assumption that your personal experience is the collective bl experience.

It's a weakness we can easily be subject to

speak for yourself

we are emotionally isolated

speak for yourself

our YFs come to play too big a role in our otherwise desolate lives

speak for yourself

The reality is that we owe it to our YFs to treat them properly - and that means expecting them to behave well with us and challenging them when they don't. It's unhealthy to let them bully us - and that is what it is.....

I actually don't have a problem with this one. According to your ethics, that is a universal truth and thus it is correct to use plural in this case. In all the other cases, however, you are simply taking your own issues and projecting them to every other bl without thinking that maybe everyone is different.