'Relationships'
Submitted by Eldad on 2008-10-8 18:22:28, Wednesday
In reply to yeah but submitted by newgeorge on 2008-10-8 13:24:24, Wednesday
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We all need real and meaningful friendships - but I was using the term 'relationship' to refer to one where one or both of you are open to the possibility of it becoming sexualised. If we are committed to remaining celibate, then we cannot allow ourselves to drift into that sort of friendship, because we have practically made the decision to go sexual even if we are seeking to pretend to ourselves that we haven't. Therefore starting a friendship with someone you find attractive is a risky proposition unless you are certain you are straight; there have been a number of occasions when I've taken the risk and looked for evidence that they are straight and been a lot more comfortable when it has become clear that they are. But for me the most important thing is to have a really solid friendship where you are free to talk about anything. For most people this is provided by their family or real life friends but it is an area we struggle with. CBF does provide that for some of us. What's your problem with regarding being a BL as a disability? Wikipedia defines disability as: "a lack of ability relative to a personal or group standard. Disability may involve physical impairment, sensory impairment, cognitive or intellectual impairment, mental disorder (also known as psychiatric disability), or various types of chronic disease. A disability may occur during a person's lifetime or may be present from birth." To the extent that we are lacking in the ability to relate to women as marriage partners and to relate to boys without a sexual element entering our friendship, surely we are 'disabled'? |
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