Re: Tsk Tsk - not a fair question n/t
Submitted by Blackstone on 2008-09-30 05:28:37, Tuesday
In reply to Tsk Tsk - not a fair question n/t submitted by Eldad on 2008-09-29 19:09:54, Monday
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Actually, I believe it is a legitimate question that is worthy of an answer if you are comfortable giving one. I don't mean that I am interested in the details of the specific acts, but rather that I would like to know about the situation; how it occurred, what your relationship was like before and afterwards, and how this wound up coming back to you. I have learned a great deal from the experiences of others and I believe that a lot of us here could learn from your experiences. Was this a boy you were in love with? How did he feel about you at the time? What was your relationship like? Was the offense an act of love? Was it experimentation on his part? Who initiated it? Was it all perfectly consensual? What caused it to all come back years later? Does he regret it? Does he now feel violated? How does that compare to how he felt back then? How does that compare to how you thought he felt back then? There are many questions that a situation like this brings up and I would find it very beneficial to learn from your experiences. I know several BLs who have had relationships with a yf that include a sexual component and for them, it has turned out beautifully. You are the first I have encountered for whom it has turned out not so well. Learning from your story would go a long way towards balancing things. I understand that you may be uncomfortable talking about it, and that's ok if you decide not to. But I, and I am sure many others here, would really appreciate hearing the whole story and how that has shaped your view of bl/yf relationships (both sexual and non). You already paid your dues, so there isn't any reason why it can't be discussed as long as it isn't in gratuitously explicit terms. Like I said, if you don't want to, that's perfectly fine. But I am sure that a lot of us could learn a lot from your experiences and I wish you would bless us with the opportunity to do so. |
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