OK so I went and had a little scan of their site... I read some of the testimonies and read their "what we beleive about homosexuality" statement.
The whole thing seems well intentioned but there is something about the Exodus website that bothers me.

1. There seems to be a big focus on the idea that homosexuality is caused by environmental factors. Now this may have some basis in truth or it may not.
The question always lingers: is he gay because he never got on with his dad or did he not get on with his dad because he's gay?
Regardless, this focus leads them to the idea that if you deal with the environmental issues you'll make it easier for the person to not seek gay expressions as the solution.

Learning to master one's sexual impulses rather than be mastered by them is needful for any Christian and I can only commend them for their efforts in that regard.

I contend however, that as healthy as it may be to face your issues, deal with past hurts, and learn self-control none of that will make one jot of difference to who you're attracted to.

I guess I believe humans are like clay, somewhat malluable & f0rmable untill they are set by the fires of puberty but then set & unchangeable in matters of personality & sexual attraction.

I can't undo the things that have shaped me any more than I can change my shape. Sure I can go back and visit the impact my past has had on me and how I'm dealing with it now. I may be able to reconcile some hurts, mend some relationships and grow up some. But I'll still be me... my favorite music will still be my favourite music, my favourite colour still my favourite colour, my love of chocolate... unchanged... my love of nature and art... unchanged... that which sexually excites me... unchanged.

So the focus is valuable in as much as what it can acheive... but they just seem to ignore the issue of attraction and how to deal with it.


2. I got the impression that they see having a gay identity as a bad thing.

The testimonies I read showed guys who moved out of gay identity talk into what seemed to me like denial.

They don't say, "I used to want to sex guys and now I don't".
They say, "I used to want to sex with guys and now I see my identity in Christ."
The whole attraction issue is swept under a carpet of "I'm a man in Christ now".

Well hey! I'm a man in Christ too but I'm still attracted to little boys! One does not cancel the other and not talking about it won't make it go away.

I much prefer Mill's aproach of "ok, I'm gay. Now if I want a companion
and family I'll go seeking an understanding wife."

I personally think that having a gay or boylover or whatever identity is just admiting the truth and is not something to run away from. You don't find alcoholics going "I'm no longer and alcoholic"... you find them saying "I'm staying sober". I think this kind of honesty is needful even.
This is what I am... this is how I'm dealing with it.

I can be a Christian and a boylover and married. None of these things are contradictory. Praise GOD!

Blessings
Cat.