I did not point the finger specifically at you, If you read back you will see my views were based on specifically anwering that question that was asked regarding marriage and honesty.

Obviously if it wasnt as an issue as you make it out to be then it wouldnt have been asked in the first place and for those who are struggling with the answer I merely pointed out that one needs empathy first of all to be able to answer it in the fairest way because I belive it is unfair, no matter what you say and If it wasnt unfair I would be married right NOW !!!! I have female friends too Ive knnown for a while and they are only friends but if I showed further interest in them sure I would eventually get a marriage proposal too, but thats beyond the point.

I said if you would have be content with your wives dishonesty had the roles been reversed then thats fine but you failed to answer that and instead compared it to not telling your wife she looks ugly in an out fit, that says a lot about how unimportant you think the two comparisons are between being honest about love and honest about a peace of clothing.

Of course every person wants the best for themselves and that includes your wife too, she wants mutual love and to know that you love her back as much as she loves you, and I dont mean just loving her personality or a as friend. You have to nerve to respond telling me Im wrong about that??? If I was arrogant I wouldnt be making statements that has the other person wellbeing at interest.

You sound like your really having a hard time grasping my intentions but I honestly and genuinly do care about how a potential wife would feel in a marriage had I chosen to do so, which is why I am not!!! Its not beacause I cant. LOL !!so you say I think im a better person than others because I expressed my views on why dishonest marriages were unfair! Hardly a situation to judge my character based on my expression of concern for the wellbeing of others and I know im not a better person then others, Im usualy first to admit it.

Its often hard for perople to admit the truth especially when theres a lot at stake, its easier to blame everyone else and be in denial, but as a person who has considered marriage and even though Im sure it has a lot of benefits I refuse to do so for all the unselfish reasons Ive already stated. So if you want to try an put me down because of my honesty and the fact that I do care how my partner would feel then thats your problem.

I have a right to care and I will voice that right even if the truth is difficult for you. Every person has a right to be loved mutually in a realtionship especially more so in a marriage and if your going to call me arrogant for making that statement you fail to see the contradiction in your comments.