Cat you say "sexual relationship between a man and a boy is not really something that can be compared in my mind to rape" your wrong beacuse soon as that boy decides later in life that had he been older he would not have chosen to take part in a realtionship and speaks out about it then immediately what you define as a acceptable, consented "sexual realtionship" becomes abuse, rape or molestation particularly in the eyes of the law, society and the person feeling victimised. Soon as that boy feels wiser enough to make a knowledgeable decission and feels regret, violated, used or abused then it does become harmful!!

What about minors who have consented to sexual acts happily due to their naivety only to later regret it many years later and speak out about being abused, so how do you classify those incidences, you dont think thats molestation or abuse?

You also said "I do believe it is posible for a man and a boy to have a loving relationship that includes sex and is not harmful for the boy."

Are you trying to tell me that a young boy is experienced, well thought, conscientious and wise enough that they will participate in a sexual relationship with full acceptence and awareness never to regret their actions later on even when their adults thus making it "not harmful for the boy" as you stated. Im suprised to hear such a blunt statement.

I cant imagine any boy would gladly getinvolved in a SEXUAL relationship with any older BL without feeling harmed later on, would you have when your a boy? I certainly wouldnt, despite the fact that im attracted to males, if any male BL had aproached me when I was a naive kid I would have easily been swayed into a sexual realtionship but soon as I was old enough to realise what had occured I would have felt disgusted, violated and hurt, and Im sure most of yous would too so it is extremely unlikely that "it is posible for a man and a boy to have a loving relationship that includes sex and is not harmful for the boy."

The odds of a unharmful sexual relationship as you mention are highly unlikely considereing the fact that the boy has be a homosexual, mature enough to pass judgment so that they can stand by their decission even when their adults, have an attraction to older adult males, and would have to know your intentions so their not feeling deceived and taken advantage of later on when they realise what has taken place, and the odds of all that is very low. Anyone who chooses to belive otherwise is in denial and needs to have a serious think.