"How much honesty should there be between married couples when one partner is not attracted to the other?"

If your remotely even capable of experiencing the emotion known as EMPATHY then put yourself in your wives shoes and you shall have the answer to that question. How would you feel if you were attracted to your wife as your attracted to boys and you wanted her to love you as much as you loved her but her interest was not mutual and she had attractions to females but did not tell you and married you with other intentions in mind.

Would you feel hurt and used or would you accept the lack of a deeper mutual love and be content and settle for less.
If you said yes to the later then obviously there is nothing to be worried about and you should be quite happy with where you are in your life?

Maybe there is something wrong and flawed with my thinking but Im the sort of person that wants someone to love me knowing everything about me, good and bad, not for the things I choose to portray. being loved for anything less is not true love.

Sure I would love to have a wife too for the sake of companionship! But when the thought crossed my mind it did not take me long to realise that I would never do that at the expense of someone else, every person wants the best for themselves and I obviously would not be the best choice for the person wanting deeper mutual love and attraction because I could not return that. Sure I could love them like a friend but no more than that and thats not fair on the other person.

Then again I live my life by the motto "Do onto others as you want done on to yourself"