Christian BoyLove Forum #54797
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"[I] feel like an outcast and that society would just condemn me for simply being born in to this world regardless of what an honest caring, kind and gentle person I am."
"None of it makes sense, How can I be frowned upon for just being me even tho im no threat to anyone, there are people out there who wouldnt think twice to judge me purely based on my feelings of love." "I know the things I refuse to ever take part in, for me they are not an option, everything I am goes against my own morals and values ..." These parts all are very true to how I feel much of the time as well. I feel, in a sense, we have been born in the wrong time. As of yet, society is ignorant about many of the issues surrounding paedophilia, and there is a prejudicial attitude as a consequence of their lack of understanding, based in fear and which is fed by media and politics. The fact that someone may be no danger to anyone (even in a legal sense) and can do nothing to change who they are attracted to becomes irrelevant once the term "paedophile" is applied to them. If you are in any way sensitive to how others perceive you, this can be an enormous burden. Now to where I disagree. I don't think it is helpful to view it as a disease. This view is reactionary to others' irrational fears and beliefs. I feel you should work towards adopting a positive view of yourself, keeping in mind you do not feel you are a threat to anyone, and your own view of yourself is the most important thing to consider. These are things I am trying to work on myself, at least. Lastly, I would suggest trying to develop an indifference to public opinion, the thing I find the hardest. "There is too much respect paid to the opinions of others, both in great matters and small ones. One should respect public opinion in so far as is necessary to avoid starvation and to keep out of prison, but anything that goes beyond this is voluntary submission to an unnecessary tyrany, and is likely to interfere with happiness in all kinds of ways ... To be genuinely indifferent to it is both a strength and a source of happiness." - Bertrand Russell |