I am completely BL... I have no (or so very very little) attraction to females (in fact I think my attraction to my wife is more emotional than physical). I find most females to be repulsive to me sexually.

Yet I am married. I got married beleiving I'd get healed... I didn't... but I've moved past that now... see my post on the talks above...

Now, I think that it's possible... if you're wife is willing (or ignorant of your sexual attractions) to have a healthy marriage and still be a BL.
The complications of being a BL are always around... but we can learn to live with them.

As to attraction to kids... I've lived most of my married life without attraction to my own kids. If it ever does come one just has to exercise self-control and lean on God for His grace to deliver you from temptation.

My wife knew I was a BL... but she also knew I would never want to sex up a boy (I mean actually do it as opposted to desiring to do it)... so she has always trusted me around my kids.

Blessings
Cat.