We can agree to disagree. I don't have a problem with that. We all have our own opinions on things and they aren't always the same.

But you also stated that there was nothing superficial, sexual, or self gratifying about your interaction with boys. I am pleased that is the case but what is your motivation then ?

My motivation is love. I care about boys. I want what is best for them. But I am also sexually attracted to them. But regardless of my attractions, I'm not going to have sex with them.

Because from those commenst one would assume you find younger personalities appealing rather than the physical aspect

I find young personalities very appealing. That's why I'm a huge fan of YouTube. Not for the shirtless videos that I try to stay away from so I don't lust. But for the vlogs and skits and other vids of boys just being boys. It's a safe way to enjoy the personalities of boys without actually having contact with them. But I also have a sexual attraction to them. I wish I didn't, but I can't control who or what I am attracted to. However I CAN control my actions so my perversion in no way affects boys.

my comments were mainly directed towards those with more deeper attractions to boys who find every aspect of them appealing and attempt to instigate sexual relationships based on those feelings.

Of course I can't see into people's hearts, so I can't say what everyone's motives are. But no one here has said it was ok to have a sexual relationship with a boy. I'm sorry if you got that impression from any posts. I think most people here, including me, would report any sexual interaction between a man and a boy if we were aware of it. I am one who finds every aspect of boys appealing, But just as a man does not love a woman simply because she's pretty, I don't love boys merely because they're cute.

So does that mean whilst your saying its ok to do what you doing because you have no sinister ulterior motives that you would agree with me that it is wrong if you saw anyone on this board who was persuing realtionships to satisfy their sexual feelings?

I agree 100%. But I know of no one here who pursues relationships with boys to satisfy their sexual feelings, or at least none who admit to it.

Because when I first posted here some suggested that showing and and receiving physical affection including hugging and kissing was fine, and that I should try and fulfill my goals and that its ok to have relationship first that could develop into something more.

You misunderstood. I didn't read that into any of the posts. The physical affection being talked about is not to satisfy a sexual desire or a "goal." It's simply a way younger boys show love. Kissing depends on culture, but most young boys love to hug and be hugged by people they care about and who care about them. When I hug a boy, it's not to satisfy a sexual desire. It's not sexual at all. It could be if I let it, but I don't let it. I don't get an erection. And if a boy isn't a hugger and doesn't want to hug, that's cool too. I don't initiate it, I only respond by hugging them if they hug me first. Because it's not about what I want. It's about what is best for them. I'm not sure where you got the impression that anyone was saying you should fulfil your sexual desires and have a relationship that developes into something "more." But what I think the posts are saying, and certainly what I am saying is that you can find ways to at least partly satisfy your emotional needs. Most boylovers, including me, have an emotional attraction to boys as well as a physical one. There is nothing wrong or sinful with the emotional attraction. Personally, I think it is God given. But there IS something wrong with the physical attraction. And while the physical attraction itself is not a sin, acting on that physical attraction by being sexual with a boy IS sin, and very wrong and hurtful to the boy. What I am suggesting is that you can separate the emotional attraction from the physical attraction. No, you can never satisfy your physical desires for boys, but you can at least partly satisfy your non-sexual emotional needs. You don't have to totally cut yourself off from boys. You just have to keep control of your physical attractions.

I have to get to work, so I need to wrap this up. Don't read more into the word "relationship" than is meant when that word is used here. It's not meant to signify anything sexual, just friendship and perhaps mentoring if a boy is in need of that. I'm enjoying our conversation. But I will be away from the computer for a while, so don't think I'm ignoring you if it takes me a while to reply to anything you post. Hang around for a while and you'll get to know us better and have a better idea of what we're all about.

Dakota