Can I interject something? From your posts, it appears you don't think it's possible to separate love from lust. Let me assure you it is. Most boylovers have a very deep love for boys that has nothing to do with sex. We want the very best for a boy. We want him to have a happy well balanced life and grow up to be a strong happy man with a loving family of his own. You've implied in different posts that the only relationship we crave is a romantic one. You're wrong. And to be honest, it's rather insulting. I have never went looking for a relationship with a boy, but a few have come my way. I considered myself a mentor and friend to them, not a "boyfriend." I enjoyed the heck out of taking them to ball games, or theme parks and got a great deal of joy out of seeing them smiling and happy. Even with boys I have not had what you might call a close relationship, I still enjoyed seeing them grow and mature into fine young men.

The fact that it's easier for a 1st grader to show physical PLATONIC affection has nothing to do with making good or bad decisions. It's simply a matter of what boys feel comfortable with at different ages. A 1st grader usually craves physical PLATONIC hugs and cuddling, whereas a teen usually won't feel comfortable with this even with his father. The way a person shows love changes as they age. This has always been true. I'm a little taken aback by the fact you think this means that person doesn't love them anymore or thinks loving them was some kind of mistake.

As a boylover, you can have a very rewarding and joyful life. But to do that you need to realize that simply because you have a sexual attraction to boys does not mean that you are somehow being dishonest or doing something wrong by just loving them.

Dakota