I have to disagree. Being a boylover is in the same field as being gay. It is a God given way of life that can't be chosen. If you want to change, then I will be there to congratulate you on that day that you are no longer a boylover. I for one, however, have come to terms with who I am. Will i come out to society as a boylover? Never in my life. I have had a YF who has broken my heart, to the point I drank myself into the psych ward. But now he is the first in his family to attend college, and there is nothing that I would give up about how God's choice to make me a boylover changed the life of others for the good.