Re: Bittersweet happiness.
Submitted by Sushil on 2008-07-26 12:25:48, Saturday
In reply to Bittersweet happiness. submitted by Cat on 2008-07-24 21:24:37, Thursday
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I wonder, Cat, if this could be a message for you wife as well. See, she probably mistakes sex for love.... At least a part of her personality seems she does. Only she would be able to change that. So I wonder if she goes through much of the same troubles as you did (and keep to do) with boys. I. e. to refine herself until reaching a stage on which she would be able to love you and at the same time having no (or infrequent) sex with you. So if this would actually be like I wrote (it is, of course wild guesswork) the question occurs to me if you actually do her a favor in acting like you would "have to" have fun having sex with her. Ideally, having sex with another human being stems from a very intimate and spontaneous situation. You "Should" like sex with her in my opinion makes the experience lacking both the spontanity and the intimacy of it. From what you write, I am convinced that you love her and that she loves you. Which is a great gift in itself. There are many human beings here on this planet, who never ever experience it for their whole lifetime - to be able to love and to be able to recieve love. Namaste, Sushil P.S.: No pun intended. Forgive my bad command of english, but I hope you get the general idea. |
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