The part about the father raping her, even though she's an adult, really rings alarm bells with me. When I was young and naive (2 years ago) I corresponded online for a while with a person who turned out to be what's called a "Munchausen poser," someone who satisfies themself by making up all sorts of terrible life problems and using them to twist the heartstrings someone who's become devoted to them as their internet friend or boyfriend/girlfriend. The fact is that adult women in the UK in this day and age do NOT have to be put up with being raped by their father and either this gal is totally dysfunctional or else she's lying to you. Mind you, there are lots of totally dysfunctional people around, so that's still a possibility. But in that case, be forewarned.

What I suggest, aaron, is that you tell us here in this thread EXACTLY how you verified that she is who she says she is, and that she is indeed an adult. Some of us have a lot of experience with internet tricks and we can help you save a lot of money and trouble if you're being hoaxed. I'm sorry if this sounds a little rough when you said you'd give up on life if she wasn't your one and only, but you might as well find out fast and give up on life sooner rather than doing it while stranded in a foreign country with no money. The Lord may have provided you with supports and strengths anywhere, but as a person who has lived in a foreign country, I can tell you, it's no place to be feeling lost and marooned.

I am praying for you and especially that the Lord will guide you to some help with the confidence and self esteem problems that are underlying your approach to this situation. Somewhere in the back of your mind you know that as a child of God and a good branch of Christ's olive tree, you don't need to be desperate. You're a loveable person and like so many of us, one of your major problems is that you don't believe it. Yes, I hear you, divorce is hell and it doesn't inspire confidence. Pray that the Lord will still show you where confidence is. Right now even the routine process of getting a passport is making you lose sleep.

Going back to verifying your gf, if you haven't seen her on a webcam while talking to her, then at the very least get her to send you a photo of herself holding a card saying "hi aaron this is me [her name] and the date is [the date the pic was taken]." There are a million and one feeble excuses why internet posers can't manage this last one (no access to a camera being a popular one, even though half of people now have cellphone cameras and there are photo booths and studios all over the place, not to mention personal cameras) and NONE of these feeble excuses should be accepted. She does not exist until you have seen her personal image in a way that 100% cannot be faked (the photo with dated card CAN be faked with Photoshop, but not many posers have the skills for that.)