Women will be women, but your wife has a worse than usual case of autopodoballisty (just made that up, the propensity to shoot oneself in the foot). She marries a fella she knows has very few if any heterosexual natural resources and then takes a rampant sexual interest in him, but when he makes a heroic effort to tweak his own psychology to make the sex successful by thinking of boys, she gets huffy and demands that he stop. She says, 'stop thinking of boys or stop having sex,' so after trying a few unlikely intermediates, he obeys her only attainable wish, which is to stop having sex.

Well, then she suddenly has a perfect Christian marriage according to ancient tradition, a chaste one. And one that already has kids. But is she traditionalist about it? No, suddenly her traditional Christianity drops away and she wants to be a secular American woman and have a big sex life. With her non-heterosexual husband and no one else.

If it's any consolation, Cat, it's not you she is resenting. She may be using you as a lightning rod, but her resentment can only be against the extraordinary knot her relentless illogic has tied her in.

Unfortunately, when she finally divorces herself, you will be among the bystander casualties.