I suppose there will always be people who believe that anything we "think" is learned and can therefore be somehow "unlearned" or "rethought".

On the other hand its also tempting to accept our mental processes as "hardwired" and thereby remove any responsibility we have for "redirecting" our thoughts in some area.

Like most things at the end of the day we need to seek a balance. Scripture commands us to "renew our minds" and to "bring every thought captive to Christ". Satan's number one weapon against us is lies and we need to wrestle to stand in the truth. Scripture tells us that sin and even our own hearts will deceive us.

The balance we are seeking is to separate truth from lies.
Some things we can change, some things we cannot.

The classic Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr comes to mind:
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference."

I think one of the things this whole debate centers around is finding this balance.

Surprisingly, I find that most of us see our sexuality as "hardwired" and unchangeable (at least as far as our own efforts are concerned).
In this respect we come to a place of acceptance. This acceptance functions on a number of levels.
Acceptance and embracing as acceptable before God in any relationship.
Acceptance and embracing as acceptable before God in loving relationships.
Acceptance and embracing as a reality, but not one that may be acted upon in respect to God.
Accepted as reality but not embraced and seeking God to change.

I don't suppose many of us believe as Anderson does that its just a demonic lie and if we choose not to believe it that change will happen.

Which ever level of acceptance we find ourselves at we all seek God for self control and appropriate expressions of sexuality and sexual identity.

I have attempted to "learn" to be heterosexual in my marriage. I have failed to get there. My wife (and I suppose Anderson et al.) believes that I can't learn to be heterosexual while I continue to reinforce my BL desires through fantasy/masturbation whatever. But I don't believe I can experience sexual urges and NOT think about the things that excite them (ie: boys).

At the end of the day, I'm praising God that I'm saved by grace.

Blessings
Cat.