quoting from your post (which I mostly agreed with by the way) you said:
"I am sure this will be a minority opinion around here, but your sex life was a part of a love that was true and beneficial (not cutting against any existing love like adultery, not merely gratifying yourself like fornication,etc.) and I believe that the Lord smiles on it."

my point was simply that it worries me that you are sure that that would be a "minority opinion around here". You are probably right and that it IS a minority opinion around here. . . . I am really trying to sort out in my own mind whether I can post here without feeling uncomfortable.

I suppose that the thing about this forum that worries me the most is that it is kind of anti-itself. it probably boils down to theology in the end.