Re: My basic problem is...
Submitted by Dakota on 2008-04-18 15:08:43, Friday
In reply to My basic problem is... submitted by Cat on 2008-04-16 07:48:54, Wednesday
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I hate it when well meaning(?) Christians tell someone that something isn't happening because they are holding onto something or that they don't have enough faith. What they are really saying is that it's YOUR fault. How loving of them to put all the blame on you. Next time someone says that to you, ask them if Paul was holding onto something when God didn't heal him. Ask them if Paul just didn't have enough faith. They have no direct pipeline to God that tells them what He will and will not do. It seems to me that you have earnestly prayed about it and you sure seem to be doing everything you can to shift your sexual desires toward your wife. If there is anything else you feel you can do, then do it. If you haven't already asked God to show you anything you may be doing to stand in the way of deliverance, then ask Him. Beyond that, the only thing left is acceptance. Both you and your wife need to accept God's will, regardless of whether or not you understand it. She will undoubtedly say that this can't be God's will, but what she is really saying is that she refuses to accept this as God's will. So she needs to deal with her rebellion against God. She also needs to accept the fact that she made a vow before God to stay with you for better or worse. If she breaks that vow, it is just another rebellion against God. Personally, if I were in your shoes, I would be getting very tired of her laying all the blame and responsibility on you. She obviously has her own issues that she is refusing to deal with. Dakota |
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