Re: My basic problem is...
Submitted by blazeofhope on 2008-04-17 02:38:30, Thursday
In reply to My basic problem is... submitted by Cat on 2008-04-16 07:48:54, Wednesday
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I like you am married, my wife and I have decided to remain together for better or worse until death parts us. We have not had sex for many years and I am not sure at this point if we ever will again. But we are best of friends and she is waiting on me no matter how long it takes if ever. I am getting counseling from a few different people. one is for my marriage, one is for helping me deal with being a pedophile and one is for the horrific childhood that I had. I was abused in every way even tortured. My wife can in no way understand what that does to your mind and she has admitted that. What advice can I give but to keep praying and hope that your wife will love you for who you are and stick with you even if it means no sex. From what I have read in your posts you love her and she loves you. It sounds like you would both like to work this part of your marriage out. It also sounds like you are doing every thing you can do to make this work! So the decision is hers to make. It does sound like you do not want to leave her and I don't think she really wants to leave you. So if it is going to work she needs to allow you the time you need to see if you can find a way to have a sexual relationship with her. And she needs to realize that will not happen over night and that it will take time. I guess I would not blame my wife if she left me, she did get ripped off on a very important part of her marriage. I feel lucky that she wants it to work no matter what happens on the sexual aspect of it. Marriage is complicated enough without these type of issues thrown in the mix. I feel so bad for the situation you are in! I said I would pray for you and I have, every day and will continue to do so. I am also praying that your wife will back off and give you the time you need and that the Lord will open her eyes to see that this is not just a black and white issue. God Bless you and your marriage, Blaze |
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