but this is a time when you really need to be nosy. It might even be a relief to him to have someone to open up and talk to about these things.

I know that the first BL I met I still feel very close to even though I have not seen him in way too long. This happened because we both opened up and told each other things few if any others know. It has created a bond that spans time and distance that makes it seem like we have known each other much longer than we have.

On the other hand I have a friend I have known since I was 2yrs old and we barely know each other. We don't talk much and really only contact each other when we want to do something. I know we both care about each other but it is not on a very deep level like my BL friend I mention above.

I think you have said before that your friend knows about your sexuality and is ok with it. That is great grounds for trust. Talk to your friend from your heart and ask him the tough questions. You may be surprised. If you two are as close as you say then he will either open up more to you or he will be comfortable enough to just say he doesn't want to talk about it.

Godspell