So now I'm a paidopipic boylover with a strong case of paidomania who has to be careful to get his paidokoraxis under control so that I can be a faithful paidokrator but I have to do it secretly becasue society hates me too much to appoint me as the local paidophulax and if I'm lucky I may get a role in the Sunday School being the paidodidaskalos. And to top it all off, every day I have to struggle cause my head is so glycypedic!

This is just too much!

Blaze, I don't think you can limit the term Boylover to "guys who love boys but refuse to give into their feelings and have sex" because there are many people who use that term who would not hold to that definition.

Even if we used the term "Christian Boylover" you would, I suspect, still find some guys who would say under certain conditions that man/boy sex was ok.

I know its a pain in the butt, but the best label we can use has to be a phrase that states our orientation and our position on sex. For example "Celibate Boylover" or "A boylover who believes in total abstainance from sex with boys".... but then you have the whole fantasy issue to tackle.

I'd like to redeem the term pedophile from its association in common press with 'sex offender' but I've found that its so entrenched that even those straight people I'm out too and accept me, and trust me, can't handle me calling myself a pedophile. Only my counselors (who see the word in its medical context) can make the distinction comfortably.

I rejected "boylover" at first cause it sounded sleazy. And in accepting it I run the risk of uninitiated others finding it sleazy. But I've come to believe that "loving" boys in a Godly manner is exactly what I want to do with my sexuality. To most outsiders I use the term "minor attracted adult" or MAA. But regardless what I use, I always have to deliver an explanation.

As someone who is out to more people than most around here, I have to say, that in my experience people are much more open and accepting than the common media presents. Fortunately, people actually don't believe everything the media tells them too and still trust their own judgment a bit.

Blessings
Cat.