What you are saying to me, in effect, is that "nothing you can say about the love, joy, mutual support, tending through sickness, rejoicing in health, commitment, monogamy, etc., of your 30+-year relationship or anyone else's same sex relationship can in any way convince me that God's love is manifested there at all and that this is not just a following of carnal desires."

You don't believe that all love comes from God. Or to put it another way, you believe there is something that looks, acts and experiences just like the highest form of marital love, but that is of satanic derivation.

You are also saying, "the experiential criteria that Jesus gave to me, like "by their fruits shall you know them" mean nothing to me. I decide by text-based prejudgment, sticking strictly to the most traditional readings, and I regard experience as an unreliable contact with the satanically ruled world."

From my perspective, which isn't meant to offend, this a theological error (akin to essenism), and I will pray for your eyes to be opened.

It's an important matter, since when our heads become that buried in the Bible, we lose the ability to be convinced, for example, that the sons of Ham are perhaps NOT meant to be the natural servants of other men, and that it is perhaps NOT ideal that slaves should obey their masters, as is commanded in Ephesians.

When you can look God's love in the face and say "I deny on principle that that is God's love," then you have an epistemological problem.