Let me be both plain and simple in my advice:

Back the fuck off.

If he isn't listenting to you, and does not welcome your loving guidance, there ends your job. Overstepping that boundary is only going to hurt him in ways that will never heal, and it will likely destroy you and everyone you care about in the process, and for all of that, it will achieve none of the lofty goals you think it will.

Some, I dare say most or even all kids need to fuck things up royally a few times before they really make that maturity leap, and trying to "protect" them from it only results in more fucking up. Going over their heads is the worst thing you can do in many such situations (suspected suicide or suicidal chemical abuse being common exceptions), because in doing so you break their confidance and their spirit, and prevent them from going through the processes they need to to mature. The only thing you can actually do is to be there by their side if they will let you, and pray for them.

~CSL

PS. Sorry for the cursing, but your shortsightedness and fear/panic based thinking just pissed me of tonight. I still mean what I said.

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