. . . Despite all your good intentions, I can only see it backfiring on you and blowing up in your face.

Cat's "Dude, women don't think rationally. They think emotionally" is a gem of wisdom such as you will rarely come across. Meditate on it long and well and you'll be better prepared for that territory (I'm sure it must come from Proverbs - ?Ch 32 maybe . . .? )