Hi Mason,

Personally I don't understand why, after all your yf has told you about her, you would choose to believe anything that this girl has told you. Just my opinion but I would have gone to your yf and said, "she claims this... what is your side of the story?"

I know you want to be tough on him if he has done what she claims, but I think you also need to reaffirm your love for him. If you really love him then stand by him even in the time of his failure. This is when he needs you the most. Let him know that you don't approve but that you are there for him to help him sort it all out.

As for his lashing out against you, put it down to teenage angst and be patient with it. Be more mature than he is. Don't communicate with him on his 15 yo level show him a better way. Instead of reacting to his tantrums and insults, take them on the shoulder and stick to the issues. Tell him what he says hurts you, but reassure him that you love him anyway. Acknowledge his anger, his fear ... whatever he's feeling. And work with him on sorting out his mess.

"And finally, after all of this, I feel good.
I am no longer attached to my YF, and have actually lost most of my BL feelings."
In my humble opinion this is crap. I don't think attachment can be broken so easily. I think your feelings are responding to the situation, so of course you feel a sense of separation (that is self preservation survival instinct taking over), but time will pass and if you lose this relationship I think you'll realise just how attached you still are and what a big deal it is. You feel good cause you are free from certain worries and hassles but once these are replaced with others you'll be longing for your yf as much as ever. Now is the most important time to be building strong things into the relationship if you want it to endure into the future in a healthy way.

Well that's my 2 cents worth.
Will be praying for ya.
Blessings
Cat.