Thanks everyone for your replies.

Godspell, I totally agree with you.

I've known him long enough to see how he works.
He does have a lot of problems that stemmed from childhood neglect.
But none of them can excuse his selfish acts towards his girlfriend.

He read my message, and it hit him hard.
I was told today, he was showing off at school because he slept with a girl in Year 12. No-one cared.
Then apparently he tried to get back into his friend group, but they kicked him out because of how he dumped his Girlfriend.

So he sits with the older kids, trying to fit in.
The girl he slept with has no interest in being his partner, according to my brother.
He just follows her around.

What I predicted DID happen.
He lost his friends, he is losing the girl he wanted.
Everyone who loved him (my brother and I), refuse to show him affection.

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I spoke with him on IM just before, and of course he denies what she said.
Maybe it will be easier to post here:


Me:
It seems this hasn't phased you at all

Him:
well u tell my parents and u can watch my life fail

Me:
I dont want that, but you deserve to fail

Him:
y?
tell me y?!

Me:
Because you basically pressured a 13 year old girl into sex, and didn't care how it would hurt her
You were in it for yourself only.

Him:
dude!
stop making up shit
who told u that

Me:
stop lying
you lied to me too much
and the biggest proof I am right, is that you lied about the condoms

Him:
dude!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Me:
You didnt care how she felt,

Him:
i didnt lie at all

Me:
you wanted sex, at the expense of her innocence

Him:
dude
if i wanted sex why would i dump her?
huh?
y?

Me:
because she stopped giving it to you!
take that.

Him:
dude
i stopped wanting it

Me:
and her parents knew, so you couldnt get what you wanted

Him:
dude
im gonna go rape myself
bye

disconnected

I see what he is doing.
He used to cut himself (scratch) himself because he knew that it brought him attention and sympathy.

He doesn't like being the asshole, so he wants to try and look like the victim.
No doubt tomorrow he will show his 'scratches' to someone tomorrow 'by accident'.

He expected me to call him or tell him to stop like I used to, but I just left and let him do it.

He needs someone to sympathize for him, but no-one will because of the selfish things he has done.
He wants to have his cake and eat it too, he wants to be selfish yet have a line of support.
Tonight he learned that he can't have both.