I have to echo Robert's sentiment. You should look at this through the model of teen dating. After all, that what he might be proposing. He's not a "boy" he's a teen, just like you are and aware of sex and its meanings. Certainly, you need to consider the laws and actually look them up (this might help), but a "good little Christian boy" while dating doesn't need to have sex to date. Since you're already sleeping together, aknowledging a romantic aspect might make that more difficult, but not impossible. Kissing would probably enter into the picture though.

Unless you live in Canada, Massachusetts or a few other choice locations, official marriage is not an option, but I think that you definately should behave as though it were, and that dating is intended to find the person with whom you will spend the rest of your life with. Even in places that don't recognize gay marriage, gay Christians should still exchange vows and *behave* as though they were married: that is, be married in reality even when paper doesn't agree. You should keep that in mind as you consider the dating thing.

On the uncertainty part, that is always hard. Play dumb, as you are now, but eventually, you're going to have to ask him outright what he means, if anything by these things. If your relationship is anything as close and truly love-based as you say it is, then even if the sex-related advances are just in your head, your relationship will survive your asking.

Love in Christ,
~CSL

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