Well, I was going to write something quite different to you after I read your reply to my recent post. It really moved me. It still moves me. I want to tell you something, I'm not suprised that this has turned out this way for you and him; it almost did for "L" and I, too. But I had made my mind up that that was not the kind of relationship that I wanted to have with him, and I stood by that decision, no matter how difficult it was. And believe me, it DID get hard (no pun intended...but it WAS funny anyway, huh?).

Well, since things have gone as far as they have in your relationship, I think it's up to you to make a huge decision here. This is one that only you can make, Mason. We can all tell you how we think, and all the reasons why, but it's up to you to do what you know is right. My own personal belief is that you should not have sex with the boy, in case you want to know. The way I see it, in the society in which we live, that is the best way to go, hands down. Give this a LOT of thought and if this is the conclusion you come up with as well, then I will tell you this...

God will give you the strength to do what you will need to do to stay away from having sex with your 14 year old friend. And He will show you the best way to go about explaining it to him, too. I think that that would probably be your best bet, to sit down and have a big, big heart-to-heart talk with him. This is going to take all the strength of character that you have, PLUS all the love you have in your heart for him as well. And it's not going to be easy. But if your love for him and his love for you is as huge as you say it is (and I personally believe it probably is just by the way you write...), then your friendship should survive such a thing.

This isn't going to be an easy decision to make, but I want you to remember something Mason. You might be a newcomer here, but you already have friends who care about you and who are praying for you. I am one of them, ok? I want to see you do the right thing (and yes, I believe that the right thing is to abstain from having sex with this boy...sorry.)and I believe in you. But I also know that the decision is yours to make...I will be praying that God will give you the strength to make the right one.

In Christ's Love,
Chris