Re: :(
Submitted by Dakota on 2007-12-14 16:15:54, Friday
In reply to :( submitted by Cat on 2007-12-14 14:54:58, Friday
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Oh. I must have missed that in your previous posts. That certainly changes things. In that case, I would tell her to "be a woman" and think about what is best for the kids instead of only thinking about what SHE wants. Sorry, but from all your posts about her I haven't formed a very high opinion, so I may sound harsh. But geez, give me a break. Here you are trying to be something you're not for the sake of the marraige, but she keeps wanting everything to be perfect. You might want to mention to her that if YOU were as selfish as she was about sex, you would be out molesting every boy you could find. YOU are denying yourself the sex you crave, but SHE isn't willing to, even for the sake of the marraige and kids. She probably has women friends who are telling her that she DESERVES to be sexually satisfied. If that is true then we must DESERVE to be sexual with boys since both come from an urge we can't change. In this case, what we deserve has nothing to do with it. Both of you took an oath before God. I was more sympathetic about breaking that oath when I thought only the 2 of you were affected. I would tell her that if she believes being sexual with kids is wrong because it hurts them and is a sin (I assume she does), then her giving up on the marraige because she isn't getting everything she expected is also wrong for the same reasons.......it will hurt the kids and is a sin before God. Let her chew on that for a while. But if I know women, which I admit that I don't, she will eventually do what is best for her and to hell with what is best for anyone else. I wish I saw a brighter outlook for you. But I guess miracles do happen so you can always hope. Dakota |
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