"Well honestly, if I knew that I'd be completely mercenary and sell the solution at every church from here to Shanghai, making several gazillion on the way. (Though you should know that it ain't just BLs who have this dilemma - in my counselling experience very few don't, including many "red blooded heterosexuals")"

The thing is... if your statement is true then God has left us without a clear indication of what to do about one of life's most common dilemmas! A dilemma to which "every church from here to Shanghai" would pay "gaxillions" to get.

hmmmm... sounds fishy to me.

Maybe we have created the problem ourselves. And the reason God hasn't answered is cause its not HIS issue!

Blessings
Cat.