"You hit the nail on the head with "I don't think MOST guys can give up feeding their sex drive". Obviously you believe some can then. If any can, then arguments comparing it to food are ridiculous, food being essential to life and sex, by your own reasoning, not so."

1 Cor 7 and Matthew 19 both agree that SOME can exercise self-control no problem and that others (Jesus implies the majority I believe) "have their own gift from God"... meaning that they need sexual release and therefore marriage. And these ones, if they don't get it, will be subject to Satanic temptations and the danger of "burning" in their passion (1 Cor 7).
Just because some can does not lead to a case of "well if they can do it we should all be able to". Scripture makes a distinction and we must also.

"Giving up is the true measure of mastery."
I don't think this is a Scriptural teaching. In Scripture, mastery is not about self-denial but about self-control. "God gives all things richly to enjoy" (1 Tim 6)... "but I won't be brought under the power of any" (1 Cor 6). Self-denial is condemned by Paul as having an appearance of religion but of being of no value against the indulgence of the fleshly nature.

(Collossians 2:20 'Since you died with Christ to the basic principles of this world, why, as though you still belonged to it, do you submit to its rules: 21 "Do not handle! Do not taste! Do not touch!"? 22 These are all destined to perish with use, because they are based on human commands and teachings. 23 Such regulations indeed have an appearance of wisdom, with their self-imposed worship, their false humility and their harsh treatment of the body, but they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence.'

I don't say "I could give it up if I wanted to"... I know that is crap!
I know that I need sexual release. And I don't believe that is sinful.
My question is, as a BL, how do I find a Godly and self-controlled way to get it.

Blessings
Cat.