"I haven't seen androkotai tossed around once. Could you show me where it appears exactly?"

Certainly. First off the term is "arsenokoitEs" (the capital E being the eta not the epsilon)

1 Corinthians 6:9-10: Be not led astray, neither fornicators nor idolators nor adulterers nor the voluptuous ("the soft ones") norarsenokoitai (the plural form) nor thieves nor the covetous not drunkards not revilers not the rapacious will inherit the kingdom of Gid