So I'm at church drinking unspeakable coffee in the lounge after a morning service and I notice one of our youth leaders (he's 20 or so) larking about with some of the kids (boys only at the time). It reminded me so much of me (a few years back admittedly) in the way it was being done - the cunning encouragement of physical contact without actually being seen to encourage it (and I should know, I got really good at that) - that it set my mind working and I've been watching him ever since.

Now I'm pretty convinced he's minor attracted, no idea to what extent BUT this makes me nervous. Apart from anything else he has access to my son. I've worked hard at getting to a position of feeling comfortable around, and not a threat to, boys but at his age I was just a bag of hormones looking for any possibility, consentual or otherwise, of getting my rocks off. Like any parent I want to protect my children without cloaking them in cotton wool but I can't shake the nervousness. I've felt like walking up to this guy and telling him where he stands but something tells me that wouldn't be the best option.

WHAT THE HELL DO I DO ?

Maybe he feels as I do and is no more a threat than I consider myself...

WHAT THE HELL DO I DO ?

I would expect as a BL to be more tolerant than some but there's the overiding need to protect which screams at me that if there's a 1 in 10000 chance of something bad happening that's too big a risk.

WHAT THE HELL DO I DO ?

am I paranoid, am I being sensible, am I being hyper-attentive...? I'm still working on this. Any posts on this topic will be read with great interest.

EMPIRE