"the worst of which would be to say "sorry, babes, no more sex - I just don't find you attractive 'cos I'm actually into boys"

EEEK that is almost word for word what I did say to my wife!
Except that instead of "no more sex" I said "I don't want no more sex"

I told her I'm willing to do it... just got honest with her about not wanting too.
Her response is along the lines of if you don't want it then I'm not going to give it to you. Which is leaving me very frustrated.
She is saying to me, "don't touch me unless you mean it". This is fair enough... but leaves me in a difficult place. I want to cuddle her and kiss her and this I do easily. I just don't want to sex her up at all. I even went so far the other day to tell her that I was feeling really tempted to have intercourse with her and think about a boy. She of course said "no".
I'm glad I'm being honest. Feeling guilty was crap big time. But I really don't know what to do about sex. I try and wait till I'm really really horney... but then I'm thinking about boys boys boys even MORE!

I also have been attracted to my kid's friends. But I've always been careful not to fantasise about real kids that I know. I've been tempted and very very occasionally I've given in. But I think its dangerous ground to go there. When their parents ask 'have you fantasised about my son?' I want to be able to honestly say "no".

Blessings
Cat.