So if there is acceptable lust in marriage, then the problem is not with lust (or sexual desire) the problem is when that desire is not directed at your own wife.

But you still have to answer my basic question.
What does God expect of those who don't have wives, nor are they attracted to women, yet they still find themselves facing the issue of strong sexual drive?

Please give me a Scriptural management plan if you can.

Saying, exercise self-control as much as you can and when you inevitably sin then go to God for forgiveness, is not really satisfying to me. SURELY GOD must have a path for us to walk on in which self-control is acheivable and falling not inevitable. Straight guys get marriage.... what do we get?

Blessings
Cat.