I have read this book and found it very helpful.

However, it still does not answer my basic question.
Because at the end of the day these guys suggest that marriage is an important part of getting appropriate sexual release.

But where does that leave the Boy lover????

Where is the book for us to tell us what our consession is for self-control?

Or is it simply that if you can't have a wife then total abstainance (even from masturbation) is required and we just have to suffer it?

Blessings
Cat.