Cat,

I still do not know why you do not respond more to my posts, but I believe the reason you feel not at peace is the guilt you feel for the sin that you know you are doing. Redefining definitions will not give you peace from this. Submitting what you are doing wrong to God, trying to fix it, and relying on His grace and mercy to move forward is the answer. The answer is NOT to redefine what is right and wrong according to scripture.