sounds like NORMAL TEENAGE MALE MOOD SWINGS, mostly.

Your male body belongs to an archaic time when IMMEDIATE PHYSICAL RESPONSE TO INSULTS OR DISHONOR was a good, effective, advantageous trait. And your body keeps doing that: flaring up and wanting to fight. Except now society has changed, and after you get to be a certain age, society will expect you to be grown-up, and not respond hormonally by punching people.
People in college are going to expect you not to act like a teenager.

*sigh* I've done enough heroic poetry in my time to watch the movements of the THYMOS. Up and down, up and down. As Homer says, when one of the (Classical) gods puts rage in your thymos, everybody else better watch out!

also, "anger...sweet as honey trickling down the throat..."

Homer is all about what happens to guys when they get CRAZY-MAD.
Fortuntely, when Achilles gets mad, and is about to kill Agamemnon for dishonoring him, Athena comes down and grabs him by the yellow hair to make him stop...so both Achilles and Agamemnon live to fight again.

Having MOMS reflect you back to yourself is problematic. You do not want to see yourself as the monster that you become in her eyes when you get angry. Women are not made to withstand the full blazing energy of their warrior sons in full flower. It's not their job, and they freak out and ask society to bring in the BIG GUNS OF SOCIAL CONTROL.

Example:
"Doctor, all I did was ask my son to take out the trash, and he told me to "FUCK OFF!" You have to give him massive doses of THORAZINE right now and put him in a special Break-a-Teen program on a desert island, so I can have my nice little house-wifely feeling of domestic tranquility and control back..."

Do not go the route of expecting your MOM to handle/control/soothe/understand/talkyoudownfrom your angry moods.

This is GUY BUSINESS.

You need to be in a GUY GROUP talking about anger: how it feels, how to use it, how to control it. If your Bible Study is run by a bunch of little old ladies in male form, then leave and find one with more testosterone. Don't be afraid to ask the leader, "Do you have experience dealing with young men who get angry sometimes and depressed sometimes?" Christianity has a nasty habit of attracting the softest males to be its leaders, but that doesn't mean that God doesn't sometimes bring Men of Heroic Temper into the church. You just have to seek them out.

I am very pleased that you can talk about the things that bug you.
You have the true Southerner's conservative desire that NOTHING EVER CHANGE. May I recommend that you take a friend go visit a battlefield with some confederate graves, and think about all the hot passions and tragic deaths, all the blazing glory fighting those damn Yankees, and all those girls weeping for their young husbands....

It's a good way to relax and get some perspective on your own Hot & Juicy fighter-nature.


---"So this kid we both cannot stand it trying to provoke both of us into rage so 'he can use it to his adavantage'....."

This is good insight. People WILL try to get you to be angry, if they know that there is fun to be had in making you POP OFF. Sad to say, grown-up masculinity is mostly about saying "NO!" to your desires. Congrats on seeing through the guy's game.

---Didaskalos

(Note: THORAZINE is deliberately so-called, because it's a chemical straijacket tranquilizer "strong enough to take down an angry thunder-god." =Thor)

PS: I like what CSL says a lot. Tho I've never been one to swear by herbal remedies...