It comes down to this in my marriage:

I believe I can't have sex with my wife without fantasy....(ie: I can't block it out... and... I can't keep an errection without it).

She don't want me to have to fantasise to be with her. She wants me to want her for her own sake.

Now the question is... am I decieved?

Can I enjoy her for her own sake?
Can I have sex with her without thinking about kids?
Am I resisting or unrepentant or unwilling or in any other way hindering the process?

Its just skin on a body frame and shapes of sex organs???? How can it be so difficult to be attracted to them????

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

This is so stressful!

Cat.