Hi Cat. Well, if being with your wife (even thought nonsexually) is what you both desire, then I'm glad for you! Absolutely cool!

As far as the fantasy thing goes, don't worry about it, man. That's why they're fantasies. They can't hurt anyone, and can't hurt you if you don't let them. Have them, enjoy them, and I feel you should lay off the guilt stuff. Who knows why our brains are wired to have them? And who really needs to know?

What's more important, in my opinion, is how you deal with real people when your pants are ON. Perhaps all this is an oversimplification, but sometimes simple can work. Take care, be happy and healthy.