Chris,

I agree.

Sometimes there are reasons for divorce (though honestly it's too bad your parents couldn't have gotten help for their own crosses to bear, Chris).

Cat... In my ever so humble opinion. This is not one of them.

As to being in love, with the boy... Takes me back to an old discussion. What really IS love? Is it just the nice fluffy feeling of having your emotions in turmoil and feeling like conquering - just so that person will notice you even more and smile that wonderful smile that melts your kneecaps... Or is it the safe feeling you get when you know your partner will be in your life and will always be there until the day you die. Maybe it's both, maybe it is neither. But I can tell you from experience, that the first passes rather quickly. Sometimes it can flare up again, but most of the time it is just another day to get in picky arguments.

LOL would you look at that. This post has had a weird side effect of making me realize that I really DO love my wife. *laughs* It is odd, but I have been struggling with that, as you know, for a very long time. I do love her. Funny that. Now if only she would realize that too.

*shakes head*

But anyway. I am soooooo very sorry for this my friend. You mean alot to me, but don't make the mistake of dismissing something that God has already given you.

Friendship and mentorship can be wonderful! And sometimes it hurts when we can't love them in a romantic way. I have been in so very similar situations its scary... It's wonderful, and fearful at the same time heh. At least it was for me. The thing is tho, the euphoria feeling is temporary, even if you remain friends and even if you continue to love him.

With your wife, love CAN blossom there again as well. Though it has to have both of you to actualize it.

I remember you said at one time that she liked me. Do you think that she would be willing to talk to me? Because if she would, I truly would love to talk with her. As you said, you are on friendly terms, so if you haven't already, mention that I am back and tell her that I wanted to talk to her. At the very least, it can give her someone "safe" to bitch to, about you! ^.~ Nyah! Heh heh.

But I know sometimes it is easier to hear things from someone else, than to someone you are close to. Maybe I can answer some of her questions or concerns. I dunno. But I do offer to you both, myself.

In Christ, we remain in all we do...