Hi again,
My YF likes too push the boundaries. When under my care & responsibility he seems to enjoy doing things that might make me get mad & angry, just to see how I respond. Take yesterday........ he had a plastic coke bottle & whilst we were sat at my PC playing a game, he suddenly turned & whacked me on the head with it hard enough to hurt.
How I responded is what this post is about:

Last week I asked my YF's Dad what I should do if he mis-behaves. His answer was that I should hit him, & when his son said "That'd be child abuse" his Dad said "No, because I give Kristian permission".

His parents aren't bad parents, & by hit I take it he meant smack. So when he hit me on the head with the coke bottle I smacked him quite hard on the butt. My reasoning being that that area is cushioned. There isn't going to be any physical damage caused, & it'll just sting like heck & act as a deterant not to whack me on the head again.
Anyway...... my YF immediately said "Smacking me on the butt is sexual abuse", but I'm unsure if it is or not.......... ANYONE know???

If that method is innappropriate, what method of discipline for a YF would you advise. One I thought of it that if he kicks off, goes OTT, hits me, ect. then I get 1 min of tickling his feet & if he shouts or prevents me 10secs is added for each.

With your advice please bear in mind that I am what is classed as a vulnerable adult (due to having ADHD & learning disability) which means that I am protected under a simular act as the Child Protection Act, but for Vulnerable Adults. In other words a child hitting/hurting/abusing in any way to me makes them as much an offender as if I hit/hurt them/abused them (I only found this out a few weeks back when my Mum saw bruises I had from playfighting from my YF. She threatened to report my YF for physically abusing a vulnerable adult, but I soon cooled her down by explaining that we were only playing & people get bruises from playfighting).

Your advice is VERY MUCH needed, as I don't know what to do as far as discipline is concerned.

Kristian

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