Boylove, in fact orientation as a whole, is not addiction, and we increase several risk factors in viewing it like one.

When we allow ourselves to look at innocent time spent with boys as our 'boy fix', we reinforce, rather than distance ourselves from, the "boys=pleasure" subconscious connection. This creates an addictive pattern where one didn't exist before.

The addictive pattern is the one that we see in molestors, and is as dangerous as the media thinks all of us are: it begins with innocence, and then we find that it's not enough (when we think about getting our 'fix' which is not a healthy nor necessary way of thinking!) and so we start searching for more and more and more. Mastering the little sip isn't possible, because if we think that way it creates it's own failure impetus.

Instead, we should enjoy what God brings our way as boys are concerned, like beautiful days or an unexpeced compliment from a stranger, and move on. This is the only way the monster is killed, seeing as how the 'boy bride' is not possible (in our society at least).

The vampire needs as least some blood, the boylover does not need boymoments. They are nice, and help us to remember that God is with us, that we are good people etc., but we can survive without it. If we can be confident in that, and not fear death or depression or whathaveyou (from a lack of boys), then we can be free to enjoy the cool summer breeze that is boy.

Love in Christ,
~CSL