I have to disagree a bit. I don't think looking at boys is necessarily "feeding the fire." It all depends on HOW we look at them. If we look at a boy, whether in a picture or in real life, and fantasize about what he would look like naked, or how it would feel to be in bed with him, then yes, that is feeding the fire. But since we cannot avoid seeing boys from time to time, I think it's important to learn to deal with it. I'm reminded of something that happened when I was watching the Little League world series a couple years back. I was feeling kinda guilty about how much I was taken with this one boy. I was feeling like quite a perv. But then Brent Musberger, one of the announcers, commented that when he looked at this boy he just felt like he wanted to hug him. I was feeling the same way!! I realized I wasn't perving out on this kid, I was just feeling what a lot of normal men felt. And frankly, it's a good feeling when you feel like hugging a boy. So why should we feel guilty about that? I don't.

I have fairly recently become a fan of YouTube. And I admit the reason I go there is to watch vids of boys. As long as I don't "perv out" on the boys that are shirtless, (which I admit I have done, but generally avoid) I think it's a good clean outlet for my boyloverness. I've discovered that it's when I try to isolate myself from boys that my thought life tends to really get dirty. Just my opinion.

Dakota