damn...

i duno anything about marriage or relationships really but here goes:

sometimes time apart can be good and make people realise what they are losing. (sometimes it has the opposite effect though)

not sure about this but are you already doing marriage counselling? if not consider it. marriages go through ups and downs and you did take a vow to be there for each other through the good and bad.

one of the techniques that ive seen marriage counsellors use is making up a list of things you love or used to love about each other (and then tell it to the other person if u want). sometimes it helps to remember why that person is so great. i mean two people dont just get married for like 20 years and have like a million kids out of nothing (usually). so what made it work before?

these are questions to ask urself and not to answer here