I agree with everything you said. But remember in one of my earlier posts I said, "I think that if you are a boylover, then you wouldn't act on the temptation. Atleast that is what I think being a boylover should mean."

I know that what I think a boylover should be, is not what it really is (to a lot of boylovers). In all my posts, I was speaking as if being a boylover is what I think it should be.

Yet, this is simply not the case. There are many BL's who do not paint the world in the simple black and white pattern you propose here.

I completely understand that, and I know that some boylovers believe sex with a boy is a good thing. But I don't, and from that view is where I was and am posting. And to me, it is simple black and white. Loving, caring for, helping, being a good role model for a boy is good, and sex with a boy is bad (in MY beliefs).